tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6093024142021646941.post2504227254278562831..comments2023-07-14T06:53:02.936-07:00Comments on The Parents Via Egg Donation Organization: Let’s talk about privacy: Does your egg donor have a right to privacy?PVEDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15193705233283347207noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6093024142021646941.post-47345018632067993542012-08-14T23:36:02.662-07:002012-08-14T23:36:02.662-07:00I am an egg donor, currently on my third donation....I am an egg donor, currently on my third donation. I love the anonymity of the process, however, if my IPs did decide to search me, I would have nothing to hide. I have never drunk alcohol, smoked or experimented with illicit drugs. My husband and I live a generally pleasant lifestyle. I would like to think my IPs would like what they saw on the internet of me-- getting into medical school and all. I am fine with them internet searching me, however, I would NOT be okay with them making contact with me. I like to believe that whoever my IPs are, they are going to be fantastic parents! I have this picture-perfect vision in my head, and knowing their identities would ruin that image for me. I wonder how other egg donors would feel though? <br /><br />Eggciteddonor@gmail.comTwin Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00371814769622992908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6093024142021646941.post-91966704812889140782012-05-25T00:18:51.261-07:002012-05-25T00:18:51.261-07:00Yes I agree with Alison , every child rights to kn...Yes I agree with Alison , every child rights to know about their donor. This makes child to know his/her actual identity.Surrogate Motherhttp://www.growinggenerations.com/surrogacy-program/surrogates/program-overviewnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6093024142021646941.post-20754635366765814912012-05-10T02:24:02.595-07:002012-05-10T02:24:02.595-07:00It's not a matter of debate here in the UK, it...It's not a matter of debate here in the UK, it's the law - any child conceived through egg donation have the legal right to contact the HFEA for identifying information about the donor when they reach 18 ... it is considered to be in the best interests of the children that they have the right to know about their identity.Alisonhttp://www.altrui.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6093024142021646941.post-85516720536572106512012-04-23T21:08:10.502-07:002012-04-23T21:08:10.502-07:00Well said Kelley. I have a feeling that 20 years f...Well said Kelley. I have a feeling that 20 years from now, your children might be interested in knowing more. Only time will tell & hopefully if and when donors choose to be open, they will reveal themselves - if not, hopefully your children will understand and respect the donors wishes. It truly is the most incredible gift.Chickachickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15128946134941207234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6093024142021646941.post-14966424090278450892012-04-16T14:24:05.669-07:002012-04-16T14:24:05.669-07:00My children were conceived with both donor eggs &a...My children were conceived with both donor eggs & donor sperm. The donors are completely unknown to us & to one another. Yet, they are the providers of the most precious gifts anyone could ever receive. And no, we did not pay them for these gifts; we reimbursed them for their time, effort, health risks, & possible physical discomfort endured while donating. <br />Of course, a formal contract is part & parcel of such a monumental & potentially complicated donation. This is to protect the rights & desires of all parties involved. Our donors requested absolute anonymity, as did we. This is an expectation that is both morally & legally binding. Not only would I be in breach of contract to investigate the identity of my donors, but I would be betraying their trust as well. What kind of person accepts this kind of phenomenal gift, the gift of children, & then flagrantly disrespects the donor's rights? What kind of example of integrity would I be setting for my kids, kids made possible by my donors, if I "stalked" them without their permission? And how would I feel if they did the same to me or my children? Last time I checked GRATITUDE was the appropriate response in exchange for an invaluable gift, not a violation of privacy!<br /> <br />KelleyKelley Wendelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6093024142021646941.post-27925164133972704202012-04-14T16:36:10.261-07:002012-04-14T16:36:10.261-07:00I think the donor should have her privacy, if that...I think the donor should have her privacy, if that is what she wants/agreed to. While I understand it is very tempting to want to "find" her and find out more about her, I think that it's best to just have the information she's willing to give. I saw a great video of a young teenaged girl (who was conceived via DEIVF), and I loved her reply about her donor (this is from memory, so not an exact quote): I am grateful to my donor and I often think of what she may be like, but I don't want to know more about her or meet her - I like keeping the image in my mind of her the way it is. That said, if a child ever wanted to meet the donor and it was possible (and all parties involved agreed), of course, I'm for that. <br /><br />I do agree with you too that I would not want a donor trying to find me or my children by googling us. It does go both ways. We need mutual respect and trust for each other. Thanks for the thoughtful post.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17979227859497813639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6093024142021646941.post-29184362332978199882012-04-13T09:19:23.689-07:002012-04-13T09:19:23.689-07:00Whether appropriate or not (and I say not), I almo...Whether appropriate or not (and I say not), I almost feel as though it does and will continue to happen. Once a donor agrees to donate, the intended parents curiosity goes sky high. Unfortunately, there is often a generation gap between intended parents and egg donors and they will no longer feel they relate to her. Or may not like the language she uses. Or 'gasp' finds out their 20 something college donor has gone out to a bar with girlfriends! Or, 'double gasp' finds out that she has worn a bikini at some point in time. I look at my cousin and young nieces FB pages all the time and if I didn't know them and how sweet they both were, I'd get a completely wrong impression. The younger generation is FB'ing to appeal to their friends and age-group and don't really think much right now about how they might be represented to others. Once they graduate or get a job, I'm sure they'll taper down. But if a parent does choose to "stalk" her donor, however inappropriate that may be, they should be prepared or at least savvy enough to know that what they find isn't always going to be their imagined perfect young woman. That being said, it also doesn't mean that she's a horrible person who frequents bars full of sailors...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6093024142021646941.post-33199747410613811862012-04-12T16:32:08.394-07:002012-04-12T16:32:08.394-07:00I think it would be completely normal to google an...I think it would be completely normal to google an egg donor. If women google internet dates, why wouldn't they google their donors? Social Media has changed privacy forever.Chickachickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15128946134941207234noreply@blogger.com